PERMISSION TO LET THEM BE PERFECT/// Renewing your mind & Finding Love in a LOVELESS World. 100% Guaranteed by the end of this read, or your old life back.

What this means for both of you and how to fix it, and... is it even fixable.

You think I am joking with that title? I am not. That person was perfect when you met. What changed? You'll kick and scream demanding they changed, but it was you. Change is the only constant. You just didn't want what you saw any longer. And as shitty as it may seem... that's okay.

With the epidemic of divorce, anybody with eyes to see and ears to hear, understand, that mental health is at the root of all marital problems. What, you didn't know?

In the old days it (insert twang here) twrent-nothin'-faincy ) just plane-ol selfishness, and it was frowned upon. Some dealt with it differently. But even then, shame kept the monster hidden. Abuse has two sisters: Violence and Isolation, even a twin for a third: Silence.

One of the most amazing things, and proves the epidemic, and there are many, but, however, there are both men and women, who I need not explain further the contents of the previous paragraph, for we share in an almost communal stigmatic wounding for which we are resurrected to a newness of life, anyone not having experienced this, has no understanding of it, because we have empathy, we belong to the world. And they took us, as we freely gave ourselves, but they named us, and now as some strange psychedelic photo of an entire lifetime gone, yet captured in time, life, lives, were here one moment then gone for good the next. Then the worst part... healing, and getting over them. Not the healing, but getting over them.

But... herein lies secrets learned in silence with a life gone, buried, and now resurrected and it's not what anyone would have ever expected... the secret is to give up, to let go & let God, to stop trying and watch. I mean, for real. When you let go of what you believe to be right and wrong, or good and evil; only then can the authentic you be born. So, we see judgement of others, and in fact everything, is recreated without evil when you stop assuming anything about anybody, any circumstance, any situation,

But now as everyone is just so intelligent they cannot just let God be true and every man a liar, they've went and named everything and everybody evil. Children up and declared their parents the devil, so parental estrangement and alienation is rampant - the death of a child who still lives, yet wants nothing to do with you. Before you are angry with your child, have mercy on whomever they chose to love, and whomever loves them. Because, they, as you, must go through the horrible pain that comes through being discarded.

Our spiritual leaders failed us, and that no fault of their own, for they were deceived into naming things evil as well.

There's only one way true love can survive, and that is through the complete surrender of your ability judge anything, any person, or anything that person does as right and wrong or good or evil. I am not talking about wickedness. And yes there is a difference.

The secret is, evil was never in the world until a dumb stupid brute beast of a man failed to take responsibility for himself and he named the most perfect gift ever given to him a shortened form of the word Evil, he named her Eve, and that is when he truly fell.

The moment you deem, or name, your spouse "evil" in your mind, out loud to her face or not, it doesn't matter; your partner, your child, boss, dog, cat; once these living creatures are given that name by you, they are in fact what ever you make up your mind they are. And it all boils down to one simple statement, that if you don't believe, resist, or deny, you at once openly judge yourself a complete asshole, and that is good, now maybe you can stop this nonsense; God makes, nor ever has made anything evil, man does. We do.

Given life and all that we need, maybe not all we want, but most certainly all we need, still...somehow it isn't enough. And this is so, only because we 've convinced ourselves of things; that somebody else has more than us, unhappy with the hand dealt out.

Love cast out all fear. And it starts with the judgement of ourselves. And I am not talking about a basic moral law, or code by which all men may govern themselves when encountering another man with his woman and in being kind, but... I am talking about the interaction between you and the universe. As things, people, places, and , really anything in your life, come and go, you will begin to see the hand behand it all.

You do not have the knowledge of good and evil, only God does.

Gal. 2:20

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Shawn Boutwell is a prolific writer and speaker. He is the author of several books, among the notables are The Secret Life of Lucidity, How to Master the Bible with the late John MacArthur, and Dr. David Jerimiah. Hebrews how they heard it. And his classic Southern Gothic: Children of the Desolate - Sleep Swimming, and The Synchronicity Game.

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